Thinking about how overwhelmingly important it is to pick the right valentine is like thinking about how huge the universe really is or how terrifying death really is. Choosing the right person to spend your lifetime with can reduce the possibilities of divorce or break up. Divorce/break up will never be a great thing to happen.
Unlike death and the universe’s size, picking a lifetime valentine is fully in your control. You have the right to choose the one who is the best for you. It does not have due date, where you can choose it slowly and carefully. Sometimes, being choosy is not bad.
When you are choosing your lifetime valentine, you are choosing a lot of things, like parenting partner who love children as you do, who willing to spend time to listen to all your good and bad stories, who like to travel like you do, who is your primary leisure time and retirement friend, and so on. Nothing will be best than having someone who you feel comfortable with.
So given that this is by far the most important thing in life – how to choose the right lifetime valentine?
1.Knowing what you really want from a relationship
Some people usually don’t get good at something until you’ve done it a bunch of times. Take your time to understand your soon-to-be valentine well before addressing each other as girlfriend/boyfriend. Know his/her habits, personalities, hobbies… If you want a caring partner, don’t ever get an uncaring one although you like him/her. It may be possible to change someone, but it may be impossible too.
2.Don’t always accept others advices
People will usually tell you what they think is the best for you. It’s not bad to accept others’ advices but sometimes those advices can’t really help you and may ruin you too. Make sure you make decision on choosing your valentine by yourself instead of having your best friend or family to make the decision. You won’t hope to choose Mr Good when you like Mr Right.
3.Have basics in common
When you and your another one have spiritual and political differences can be difficult to deal with. For example, if one of you like sports but the other one does not have interested in, it’s a nightmare. It will be fine in the beginning, but soon this feeling will be more intense.
4.Beware of people who want to get married immediately
Marriage should be one of the wonderful thing in everyone’s life- marry with someone who you say ‘ I do’ without any hesitation. It’s wise to know someone for some times before getting married. Getting married immediately when you just knew that person for just few months will not really last long.