Quirky Wedding Favors Ideas

If you are a hands-on bride and want a personalised wedding, you should start figuring out what you would like to give away as wedding favors. It is usually a small gift given away as token as appreciation to guests for coming.

It is common for weddings in Malaysia to give out chocolates, candies, potpurries, as well as merchandises and pictures of the bride and the groom. Why don’t we innovate and give it a special touch? I’ve always thought that wedding favors would symbolize the thoughts and efforts poured into the wedding. There are so many things to think about, the moment the guy proposes. “When shall we have the wedding? Will it be in a hotel or in a restaurant? How many dresses should I have? What theme or decor would I want my wedding to have?”

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With so many thoughts running wild in the bride’s mind, they tend to neglect the wedding favors. The one and only item that the guests would bring home with them, as a memorabilia.

Oh, don’t forget. Most of your guests are going to be instagramming the wedding favors so take this opportunity to get them excited.

Personally, I love handmade and crafty items. It doesn’t even have to be expensive! You can easily get those small little jars and bottles from Chinatown and fill it up with sweet little things. For example, you can fill a miniature glass bottle with vanilla essence with little cinnamon sticks insides.

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Or you could simply buy bigger jars and just buy tonnes of salt and dump it in. Chances are, your guests will bring them home and use both the jar and salt in the kitchen.

Picture6Picture5  If you have a budget surplus for wedding favors, miniature whiskeys would definitely score you some points with your guests. Don’t forget to encourage your guests to sober before driving home though!

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Always remember that wedding favor will always be the only item that they will carry home with them. Make sure these little things are able to make not only a lasting impression, but also a memorable one!

Wedding Songs Selection

Your music selection would determine the mood and the ambiance of the night. You would want a classic that everyone knows by heart and would sing along to. The compilation of the right combination of both classic and modern love songs is a fun, yet tedious process. I enjoy attending weddings, where there are no karaoke machines involved. Some things are better left to the professionals than for the guests to pick a microphone and blast the audio system. I am sure most of you had childhood memories of a wedding where the guests brought their favourite karaoke songs to the dinner and attempts to serenade the wedding couple.

As we grow older, we move away from that tradition because the right music would make the night memorable. I’ve attending a wedding recently where the groom’s father and uncles were from a boy band back in the 80s and offered their skills to the wedding. It was lovely evening as each of them took a role in the musical instruments with the groom’s dad as the vocalist.

 

Picture2Then again, how many of us actually have family members who are good at it? Stick back to the good old CDs and let the CD players do their magic. Here are a few of my personal favourites:

  1. Two is Better than One – Boys Like Girls feat. Taylor Swift
  2. A Thousand Years – Christina Perri
  3. Ye Liang Tai Piao We De Xin
  4. From This Moment – Shania Twain
  5. I Wanna Marry You – Bruno Mars
  6. Can’t Help Falling in Love – Elvis Presley
  7. For A Moment Like This – Kelly Clarkson
  8. Wonderful Tonight – Eric Clapton
  9. All I Ask of You – Phantom of the Opera
  10. When I Fall in Love – Nat King Cole
  11. Just The Way You Are – Bruno Mars
  12. I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing – Aerosmith
  13. Truly Madly Deeply – Savage Garden
  14. Come Away With Me – Nora Jones
  15. Because Of You – Ne-Yo
  16. Because You Loved Me – Celine Dion
  17. Can You Feel The Love Tonight – Elton John
  18. Close to You – Carpenters
  19. Endless Love – Diana Rose & Lional Richie
  20. Grow Old With Me – Mary Chapin Carpenter
  21. One Moment in Time – Whitney Houston
  22. The Best is Yet To Come – Frank Sinatra
  23. Flightless Bird – Iron and Wine
  24. Turning Page – Sleeping at Last
  25. Here and Now – Luther Vandross

 

Picture1The first time I heard the song Flightless Bird by Iron and Wine was during the wedding scene of Twilight: Breaking Dawn. If you witnessed the wedding on screen, you would remember a song played in the background that caught my attention.

Today, professional singers are hired to perform. It can be quite a challenge finding the right band for your wedding theme. You would want someone who is melodious and soothing, rather than loud and power pack.

Here are a few contacts for you to further enquire for wedding performers:

Starz Band

Click here to watch Starz Band Video

www.starzbandpenang.com

Tel: +6012-4237103

My Live Entertainment

www.mylive.com.my

Tel: +6012-3087166

The Muse Entertainment

www.themuseent.com

Tel: +603-91079207

Price range: RM2,800 for 1 vocalist and a guitarist or keyboardist

Mosaic Music Entertainment

www.mosaic.com.my

Tel: +6012-3297376

The Raw Note

www.wedding-live-band-malaysia.com

Tel: +6016-2050957

Rhumba Event Management

www.rhumba.com.my

Tel: +603-2377033

 

Wedding Speech: It's All About Her!

Wedding speeches are traditionally made to honour the happy couple. Here’s a brief guide to the different types of wedding speeches.

The Bride’s Father

Official role: Friendly host

Shares stories about: Her childhood

Most likely to be: Sentimental

Must try not to: Embarrass the bride

Raises a toast to: Bride and groom

Must not forget to: Thank the guests and mention absent family members and relatives

The Groom

Official roles: Doting husband to the bride

Shares stories about: The courtship

Most likely to be: Romantic

Must try not to: Upstage the best man

Raises a toast to: The bridesmaids

Must not forget to: Hand out the presents

The Best Men

Official role: To be the headline act

Shares stories about: His best buddy

Most likely to be: Outrageous

Must try not to: Upset the bride

Raises a toast to: The bride and groom

Must not forget to: Read out any messages from the rest of the buddies

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person – Mignon McLaughlin

 When would be the first time for the husband to confess his love and share his story about how he started his journey with his newly wedded wife? Through the wedding speech, of course!

I just love seeing the bride and groom choking with emotions, and reading out a somehow, well prepared speech to each other, and yet unable to finish each sentence smoothly. Ah, how adorable.

Tip One

Always create witty and funny content that wouldn’t offend the newlyweds or the guests. The aim of the wedding speech is to express gratitude without making the guests puke.

 

Tip Two

Start the speech with a simple story on how you met your bride in a manner that would convey all the elements that made you fell in love with her, again and again.

 

Tip Three

Be precise when you try to describe the bride. Please do avoid using Google as your consultant in finding the right words.

 

Tip Four

Keep it short and simple. Better still, keep it under 5 minutes. You wouldn’t want to bore your audience. After all, they are here today to give their blessing to your happy union.

 

Tip Five

Write it on a paper and don’t attempt to memorise your 5-minutes worth of wedding speech. Under stress, your memory would probably is blank with one microphone on your hand. Lastly, don’t forget to practice it in front of the mirror!

 

One of the videos that went viral a few months ago, was Tom Fletcher’s wedding speech. For those of you who have no idea, he is from a UK boy band called McFly. It was the most honest, heart warming and emotional wedding speech.  Enjoy!

French and Vintage Themed Wedding at Renaissance Hotel

Attended a wedding in December whereby the newlyweds actually took part in a flash mob!

  1. What was the theme of your wedding?

I had 3 separate weddings because I am from KL and my husband is from Butterworth. The first reception was on the 3rd of November last year at the Renaissance Hotel in KL for the bride’s side so our family members and relatives could gather today to share this moment with us. I wanted a unique wedding reception and finalized on a theme called French Vintage. So, the main colour used was lavender. The second wedding was on the 11th November which comprises of the whole “jip san leong “(bride pick-up) processes. It was hilarious with all the games that were played on the best men. My entire bridesmaid wore a lovely shade of pink customized dress. The last reception was on the 12th November at the Sunway Carnival Convention Center in Seberang Perai with the Shanghai Night theme.

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2. How long did it take for you to prepare your wedding? Was it difficult?

It took a year to prepare everything for my wedding as 2012 was a dragon year and almost every ballroom was fully reserved for weddings and conferences. Fortunately, there were availability for the Renaissance’s ballroom and that’s when everything felt perfect. Boy, I was wrong! The massive amount of preparation required months in advance and had to be finalized. Weeks prior to the wedding night, everything felt wrong and I felt suffocated with no time for anything else. I was close to giving up.

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The whole preparation turned difficult because I had 3 wedding in separate venues. Initially, my mother wanted the jip san leong to be in Penang. Standing firmly on my feet, I made it clear and firm that I wanted my friends and family members to be around for this special moment with me. Fortunate enough, my in laws were considerate enough to allow me to do it my way. It is important for a bride to have both families trying to accommodate the bride’s need. It helped minimize the stress and tension during the discussion.

3. Who helped you in the planning?

My husband and I were fortunately enough to be sponsored by The Peak Xperience. Back in 2011, my sister, Vicky, encouraged me to participate in a contest which was organized by the The Peak Xperience, TrulyScrumptious! and La Flaire. We won RM10,000 worth of wedding products and services which includes a Wedding Planning Package (The Peak Xperience), couture VIP table top design and décor (La Flaire), 100 pieces of custom-made wedding cupcakes (TrulyScrumptious!), and 200 sets of Bespoked Wedding Cards (The Peak Experience).

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We also engaged The Peak Xperience to assist us in the wedding day and I must admit that a wedding planner does help reduce the stress a lot. It was an excellent service by Natasha Khoo, who was on standby the whole time to assist me and to supply me with creative ideas.

Putting that aside, the biggest credit goes to my family members who had gone beyond their means to work things out for me. Each of my family members took up a set of responsibilities to lessen my burden. For example, my sisters and sister in law worked hard for the wedding reception in Penang. We had no wedding planner and my siblings and sister in laws handled most of the task while I coordinated with the hotel’s wedding coordinator on the decor for that night.

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4. What was the biggest challenge in this?

There were bound to be challenges throughout the whole process from day one till the last day. First, it was the Renaissance ballroom itself. A week before the wedding reception, Natasha informed me that the hotel had just received a booking for a conference meeting on the afternoon of the wedding night and the meeting would end at 5 or 6 in the evening. Natasha was worried that there won’t be enough time for the decoration. The ideal time to start decorating should be at 3pm because the cocktail session was scheduled to start at 5pm. My heart fell but fortunately, the conference was called off! The second challenge was being so frustrated when calls were coming in for some cancellations. I broke down on my way to the hotel and went to my sister. She calmed me down and just told me to be the happy bride. So, I did as I was told….. until my dad came to me asking for the wines. It was 6.45pm and the wines were not in the hotel. Apparently, there was a massive traffic within KL and my biggest fear was the white wines would not have enough time to be chilled. I was very close to passing out and fortunately, it arrived at 7pm and I was glad that there was alcohol to be served after all.

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The last challenge was the wedding cake. My sister, Candy, who personally dealt with the baking to the decoration of my wedding cakes, feared that there was insufficient time to bake two cakes for two separate themes and venues. Plus, the decorations were made from sugar paste and would melt on the way to Penang. So, she started the cake décor at the convention center in Penang on the day itself. It was tedious and it took her 5 hours to finish it. I appreciate her professionalism and thanked her with all of my heart for making it happen.
5. I remembered something about a flashmob during the wedding reception. Where did you get this idea from?

I actually participated and recruited the dancers for the flashmob! But the person in charge behind the scene was my sister, Kitty, who randomly threw out the idea for a flashmob over dinner. Everyone is doing flashmobs now, and we should do it. And that was it! It was kept hush hush between the dancers and was a beautiful surprise on that night.

Initially, I wanted the song from Grease because I loved the movie. But, Gangnam Style was trending at the point of time. So, we decided on using the hitz.fm’s version of Gangnam Style. Believe it or not, Kitty actually choreographed the dance routine. I was amazed by her efficiency because she made it all possible with only 2 weeks in her pocket.

6. Do you have any advice for the brides to be out there?

Always, always stay calm. There were quite a number of arguments on the decors, themes, and even on the beverages selection. The key to be calm is to listen, especially on what your parents have to say. They would want nothing but the best for you, so try to listen and you might be in for a surprise! In certain circumstances, they would provide you with the point of view of an outside to allow you to see a bigger picture. So, please try to put your ego away and accept people’s opinion.

I am a firm believer that early preparation is crucial for the perfect wedding. But do trust me on this, nothing is perfect, or will ever be. So, sit back and enjoy the planning process. I actually missed the adrenaline rush and the planning process more than the wedding night. It is acceptable to be a bridezilla but, hey, don’t overuse that power!

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Additional information as below:

Wedding Planner: The Peak Xperience (Natasha Khoo)

Couture Decor: La Flaire

Cupcakes & Wedding Favors: Truly Scrumptious & GC Passionate

Makeup: Makeup Miracle by Kenny Yee

Photography: K.E.Z Cinematography

Wedding Gowns: That Special Occasion

Emcee: William Lee

 

 

We don’t need no Jimmy Choos!

You can opt for a long or a short wedding gown, but you can’t do much with your wedding shoes! Shoe hunting can be a delicate and painful process. Entering and exiting one shoe store after another with an empty hand could be quite frustrating. We all have our own idea of our dream shoes. Some like it high and some like low for fear of tripping over their own wedding gown! There are so many types of designs and colours to choose from, even white has a few tones to it!

Here are some simple ideas on how you could “fix” or “beautify” a pair of simple pair of heels.

Add Glitters to Your Shoes

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What you need is a roll of masking tape, LOADS of glitters, glue and a paint brush

  1. Tape the base of your heels. You  wouldnt want your base to be messed up, do you?
  2. Pour the glue into a plastic cup and add in all the gliter. Mix it thoroughly.
  3. Now, paint your entire heels with the glitter glue.
  4. Let it dry in front of a fan for 2-3 hours.
  5. Paint over with a layer of clear glue. This would seal the glitter to the shoes.
  6. Voila, and we are done!

Add a Touch of Ribbon

Picture5Imagine walking down the aisle in your long wedding gown, with a pair of wedding heels with cute ribbons on it. It adds a touch of simplicity and yet, sensuality to the design. It is easy to do and will save you the time and money from hunting for the specific design you have in mind! Just DIY at home, as many pairs as you  could wish for!

Wearing a Pearl Anklet

Picture3Weddings are synonyms to white, classy and of course, pearls! Brides would usualy pair their wedding gown with a touch of solitaire diamond neckalce or a strand of pearls. What about wearing a pearl anklet too? Not only would it act as an accessory the gown, but also makes your footwear sexier!Find yourself three strands of pearl anklet and wear them all together!

 

 

 

Add Some Crystal Rhinestones to the Heel

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How about adding some sparkly little stones on the heels? It’s bound to make head turns! If you are a shoe fanatic, this is a must have. It is difficult to find the perfect wedding heels and gemstones heels are just not common enough in Malaysia. Just invest in a glue gun, some glue sticks and crystal rhinestones! A bejewelled pair of wedding heels!

These little ideas are easy to do and the materials can be easily bought in any art stores. Feel free to email me if you have any ideas to share at joan.dee@wedding.com.my

Happy shoe making!

 

 

 

Bringing Your Dog to Your Wedding

If there is anyone else that I could truly love to share my wedding day with, it would be my dog.

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Throughout goods times and bad times, my dog would always be loyal by my side, licking my tears away. So, the big question is would you bring your dog to your wedding? They are  lovable creatures and everybody would love them! Who doesn’t ooh and aah when they spot a furry friend walking down the aisle with tail wagging!

Not only could you bring your dog to the wedding, get them to doll up and participate in the wedding photos. They are excellent props for photo shoots.

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However, do remember that your dog is a sensitive creature and would require a lot of attention. Not all pets are people-friendly and easy to manage.

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Things you need to know before bringing your pet dog to your wedding:

  1. They are afraid of loud noise and music But, if you think they are able to handle it, make sure they are exposed to those environments before the wedding day. Getting them customized to such environment would allow them to allow better during the real day. Leave him at home is he is shy because there’s where they feel safe.
  2. There will be children in the wedding venue and take note that some dogs enjoy gentle biting and chasing, especially with kids running around the venue.
  3. Make sure you have a dog handler and make sure they are constantly on the leash. We don’t want any broken china, do we?
  4. Involve your dog in the wedding ceremony but not the reception. The people walking in and out with loud music blasting would make your pet uncomfortable.
  5. Check if the venue would allow you to have your pets there.
  6. Bring a big bone to keep your pet occupied when required.

Make sure that your bridesmaids, groomsmen and guest are aware that there will be dogs on the venue. Inform them early to prepare them if they suffer from allergies.

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Dowry (lai kam): How Much is Enough?

Unless you’re swimming in gold, this article could provide you some information when it comes to giving dowry out in a Chinese wedding.

For a Chinese wedding in Malaysia, it is customary for the groom to give money to the in-laws. Usually, the money would be used in the preparation for the bride’s wedding such as the wedding dinners, gowns, accessories, jewelleries and many more. Of course, the more generous you are, the happier they are. Well, money doesn’t grow on trees, do they?

The key challenge here is to give an amount that will not make you appear stingy .It is a sensitive topic which is rarely discussed. There are in-laws out there who would request for a specific figure, say RM15,000. That is a lot of money and would probably require you to starve for a year to save that amount, not forgetting that even more money is required for the wedding preparations.

So, your in-laws have requested RM15,000 for dowry money. What do you do if you don’t have enough? Would you step into the war zone and attempt to negotiate or would you plead your wife to talk some sense to her family?

Let’s assume one of the above suggestions worked, how much should be enough?

There are a number of factors that need to be considered:

1.       How well off is the bride’s family?

Remember this, the dowry is supposed to be used to ease the family financial burden for the preparation for the wedding. If her family is more financially stable than yours, you will need to give enough for it to be meaningful. If her family would be struggling to host this wedding, that’s when you have to think twice if you could provide more to help them prepare for YOUR wedding. Ego is a common obstacle for all, for you and for them. Be prepared to lower your ego.

2.       Where will the wedding be hosted?

The cost of hosting a wedding in KL is way higher than in any part of the country. Assuming the bride is from Johor or Kedah, then the cost would be lower. I have attended weddings in Penang, Alor Setar, Rawang, and of course KL. The guests attending a wedding in KL would pack about RM100-RM250 per person depending on the location of the wedding.

Below is a rough estimate on what you should be receiving based on the venue:

In KL

Hotel wedding: Minimum RM150

Chinese restaurant: Minimum RM100

Customised venue RM150-RM200

House wedding: RM100

Out of KL

Hotel wedding: RM80-RM150

Chinese restaurant: Minimum RM100

Customised venue RM100-RM120

House wedding: RM80-RM100

 

*I have seen families who brought their entire clan – father, mother, 3 kids, maid, grandmother and all they pack was RM150 for all.

3.       How much are you earning?

I believe that your dowry should be at least 15% of your annual salary. Just like how I think that the cost of the wedding ring should be 3 times of your monthly salary.

Annual Salary Estimated dowry
RM36,000 and below RM5,000
RM36,000 – RM48,000 RM6,000
RM48,000 – RM60,000 RM8,000
RM60,000 and above RM10,000

I have read through numerous articles online and spoke to newlyweds to dig further information on this sensitive matter. The general market would say RM8,888 is a good amount of money, because it is not too little (I’ll say RM5,000 is little) or overly generous (RM25,000). 8 is also an auspicious number in the Chinese tradition. Hope this article would provide you with a better idea on how much should you give as dowry.

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Chinese bride marries with £100 million dowry

A wealthy Chinese tile magnate gave his daughter a gigantic £100million dowry that included four boxes of gold jewellery, two luxury cars, shares and several homes for her lavish wedding.

The extravagant gift included four boxes of gold jewellery, a bankbook with deposits worth £2m (20m yuan) and an impressive property portfolio.

Pictures of the generous dowry were posted online on Sunday, at the end of the ‘eight-day banquet’, which took place in Cizao town, Jinjiang county, in eastern China’s Fujian province.

Wu Duanbiao, chairman of ceramics firm Fujian Wanli Group, gave his daughter’s new husband real estate including a retail store in Quanzhou, the Olympic villas and the Wanda mansion.

He also bequeathed the newlyweds 500m shares in his ceramics firm worth more than £10m (100m yuan) as well as a Porsche and a Mercedes which draped with red ribbons.

Wu, 54, also gave donations worth £1.5m (15m yuan) to two charities, according to local media reports.

The full extent his wealth is not known and company records show he only drew a salary of £12,000 last year.

His wife described the groom as ‘an outstanding young man’ saying:  ‘He gets his bread from the government.

‘As parents, we certainly want our child’s life to be more stable than our lives as entrepreneurs.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2255688/The-worlds-best-father-Generous-Chinese-businessman-provides-100million-dowry-daughter-ahead-lavish-wedding.html#ixzz2aWBB5TdE