After the question been popped, you had shown off your engagement ring to your friends and family. You won’t be able to stop staring at your hand. While the ring represents your once-in-a-lifetime significance symbol, it is about time to get your head cracked with all the wedding conversations.
Making the key decisions need to be sorted out early on in the process, but one thing you should not miss is having a handful conversation with your parents. It might be nerve-wracking talking to them about money, guest list because it makes you jittery with nerves just by starting the topics with them.
Yet it is not something you should miss and your conversation with your parents should be on top of your to-do-list.
There are some conversations that you should dive in with them after you get engaged:
1. Choosing Date
That is why one of the very first talks you should be having with your parents – your wedding date. After getting engaged, do have a talk with your parents to find out if there are any potential conflicts or suggestions of days or even months that work best for both parties.
For instance, in a traditional Chinese wedding, choosing an auspicious date for the wedding is an important event. It ensures the couple starts their marriage off on the right foot. Some will consult a monk, fortune teller or even their relative. However, picking a date and getting your parents part with it is one of the best ways to kick off your wedding planning process.
2. Your Guest List
Deciding on the guest list for your wedding definitely takes some time. That’s why you should get a head start or an idea of how many they will be able to invite. This way it is easier for you to stick to a realistic headcount.
Whether the conversation is about the number of people they can invite, who should be invited or left out from the list should be discussed earlier. It gets your parent’s thinking about finalizing the list beforehand because there will be so much to plan.
3. Budget
The topic of money can sometimes be awkward and sensitive, especially to your parents. But having to know how much money you have to spend on your wedding, will help you understand your budget before you spend your money hiring event planners, photographers and so forth. Whether the money is coming directly from you, or them or even your the other half will help you understand what the money will be used for. So do draft out a budget for your wedding!
4. Traditional Ceremonies
As you are on the path to making your wedding decisions, do ask your parents if there are any long-standing family traditions that should not be missed in your big day. Get your parents to fill you in and all the traditions, so that you and your fiance are able to decide which of the traditions is most incorporate at your wedding.
For example in Malay wedding, ceremonies may be held over several days in their tradition. The marriage is solemnized during the akad nikah and the highlight of the wedding is bersanding, followed by a feast. These are traditions that should be included to align with the Islamic beliefs.
As a matter of fact, a wedding is a ceremony where you and your fiance united in marriage. In Malaysia, wedding traditions and customs vary between culture, religion and social classes. The wedding vows by the couple, presentation of the gift has different meaning and symbols. Even music or prayers differ in religion. Therefore, having a conversation with your parents beforehand allows you to have an idea how your wedding should be planned!
Some parents do enjoy being hands-on with their child’s wedding and some help them make the decision along the way. Yet some don’t mind taking the backseat and only help out when needed. Having a conversation with them will help you determine how much they would like to be involved.
Getting marriage advice from your parents is essential because their wisdom can inspire you to plan your wedding without any stress. It allows you and your fiance to focus on what matters most.
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